If you missed Amy's first Bad Mum post please take a look here.
Take it away my lovely!
5 Things Not To Say To a Pregnant Lady
1. Mention their size. I was bloody huge throughout my
pregnancy. I am not joking, I had a baby bump at 8 weeks! The amount of people
that would say 'Jeeze aren't you MASSIVE!' or 'How many you hiding in
there?' or 'Are you sure it isn't twins? hahaha!' It is just rude! You would
never comment on a ladies size at any other point in their life so why is it OK
just because she is growing a human. The answer is; IT IS NOT BLOODY
OK!!!! On the flip side of this is when you carry small and people question if
you are actually pregnant. We have enough to worry about without
having strangers tell us we are essentially faking it.
2. Should you be eating/drinking that? Really? When did
Susan in accounts become an nutritionist? I have been up all night throwing
up, if I want to eat my own weight in Coco Pops this morning then that is
what I am going to do! Oh and Geoff in dispatch I haven't slept for two nights
so this can of coke is the only thing helping me stand right now. As long
as we aren't injecting bacon fat or snorting sugar I suggest you keep
your opinions to yourself. I was once put in tears by a sonographer who
relished in the fact
my baby was 'fat' her words and that I have obviously been
eating badly. My midwife was appalled when she found out and a complaint was
made.
3. 'Oooh! You think you're tired now? HA! You just wait!' I
am fully aware that once my little bundle of joy arrives I can kiss good
bye to sleep. I did a little bit of research before deciding to become a
parent. However, this does not help me feel any better when I am so
uncomfortable and kept awake by a baby kicking seven shades out of my liver. I am
fat and tired please let me complain in peace.
4. Horror stories. Please will everyone just take a flying
jump when they want to share a story about how their Aunt's sister's
daughter tore from here to here, or how the lady down the road was in labour
for four days or how Mandy in Sales baby got stuck half way out. Just STOP!
Birth is a magical process and sadly in our culture it is shrouded in
mystery and scare stories. They don't help anyone. Lets empower pregnant
ladies for their birth, whether its through the exit or out through the
sunroof.
5.' Enjoy life now before it is all over'. I find these so
insensitive! Most couples try for a baby for a long time!
Trying for a baby is hard and generally not a decision taken lightly. Even
though parents often long for their old life, none of us would
trade it in. Having a child is gift, a gift that sadly isn't given to all
that want it. So to tell an expectant mother that their life will be
over is just an awful thing to say!
Basically stop being dicks just because someone has a human
incubating inside of them.
Once again thank you Amy and she does it again! If you want to write for Bad Mum please contact me.
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