This Girl is Enough
What is the delio with us women all feeling
like we’re not enough?
I’ve now hit the ripe ‘old’ age of 43 and I’m
calling bullshit on us fucking incredible beings, not feeling like we’re enough!
I’ve spent far too many years of my life telling
myself (yep, most of how we are judged is self-inflicted) that I wasn’t a good
enough daughter, friend, girlfriend, wife, mother, step-mother, and now I stand
for it no more, and I want you to join me in the This Girl Is Enough
revolution!
We are living in a world where we define
ourselves by followers, likers, stones, sizes and what we feel we have to give.
It total undermines all that we are, all that we DO have to give and us as
whole and unique individuals.
Sure my thighs touch each other, my teeth
aren’t anywhere near where I’d want them to be, I’m pushing a size 14 and when
I do crack out the liquid liner my winged look is far from on point BUT, I’m
kind, I’m generous, I’m loyal, I’m an awesome wife and the best mother I can
be, so all in all, I reckon that I’m totally enough!
This self-confidence and acceptance of my
slightly quirky look has been a massive journey for me to take. I’ve had a shit
tonne of therapy and years of self-exploration. I am, and I think I always will
be, an ongoing work in progress and I’m OK with that. As the world around us
evolves, so we should too.
Having watched too many women tear themselves
apart through guilt and not feeling enough, losing days, months, years of their
short lives talking bad about themselves, I’ve now found myself supporting
women, helping them to realise that they are enough. I talk to women through my
blogs, social media and community groups, sharing stories, supporting and
gently nudging their enoughness out. And as this is such a massive topic and fundamentally
important not just to us but to our daughters and granddaughters, I’m taking my
message on the road.
I’m hosting (and speaking at) self created events. My events
are non-profit, women only events titled ‘Self Love’. I really struggle to
watch us women love others so freely and yet totally suck at loving ourselves? At
the events there are
speakers who will fill up your metaphorical cup, surround you with warmth and
challenge you to love yourself a little bit more.
I really do think it’s time we all learned to
love ourselves, warts and all, in a bid to live a more fulfilling, enjoyable,
kick ass life free from the feelings of not being enough, and so I’d love to
set you a mini challenge, it’s a really simple technique that’ll get you onto a
starters block for self-love.
Here’s your challenge;
Get a cup of tea/wine/gin *delete where
appropriate* and write yourself this list;
‘10 things you appreciate about you that make you
feel good about yourself’
(top tip, I have my list printed out and stuck it on my
office wall, daily reminders of how enough I am, boom!)
To sit with yourself and really seek out the
good in you, is a bloody awesome way to remind yourself that you are enough,
just as you are. That you have plenty to give, and that there is no room for
beating yourself with feelings of guilt and self-doubt. That you don’t need to
be ALL that is expected of you (self-inflicted or from society pressures) that
it’s ok to NOT be ALL that is expected.
Take the pressure off, smile and repeat after
me………
“I am fucking awesomely, epically enough”
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